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Magic of Flirting Explained: The Origin And The HowTo’s – Part 2

March 30th, 2010


The Flirting Triangle

Flirting Glance


When we look at people we’re unfamiliar with such as in a business situation, our eyes make a zig-zag motion — we look from eye to eye and across the bridge of the nose.

With friends, the look drops below eye level and moves into a triangle shape — we look from eye to eye and down to include the nose and mouth.

Once flirting begins, the triangle gets larger — it widens at the bottom to include parts of the body. The more intense the flirting, the more intensely we look from eye to eye — and the more time we spend looking at their mouth.

It can be highly seductive when someone’s watching your mouth while you’re talking to them. It could be they’re fantasizing what it would be like to kiss you. A word of caution — don’t be overly overt in this method or you’ll only succeed at relaying a subliminal message of being a sexual predator to a female.



Read My Lips


Like a lioness presenting herself to a mate, women will arch their backs and show off their hips to indicate fertility. Though I hate the stereotype of a giggly, doe-eyed blonde, women laugh and open their eyes wide not because they’re ditzy, but because it conveys an image of surrender and youth. While both men and women will make prolonged eye contact with people they’re interested in, a woman might also lick her lips, helping to bring visual attention to the mouth. If someone is staring at your lips he may be thinking of how to kiss them.

Though a man might not pound his chest like Tarzan while in a crowd, it’s only because of social constraints. He’s still trying to put forth his strong jaw, an indicator of high testosterone levels, and spread his arms and chest to look muscular and strong. Yet he doesn’t want to look too strong or threatening, so he laughs and smiles frequently. Confident and powerful enough to protect his brood; nice enough not to harm the doe.



Mirroring – Monkey See, Monkey Do


This is what separates a competent flirt from an expert — nothing will bond you more effectively than mirroring someone’s behavior. Together, both sexes take part in mirroring, tending to sit or stand in similar positions, or pick up a drink at the same time. When one person leans in, another will do the same if it likes what it’s seeing. The theory behind this is that people are drawn to others who are like them. We like people who are like us. If someone is doing what we’re doing, we feel they’re on the same level and mood as we are. You should only mirror positive body language, ie. if person picks its nose, put the mirror down. Also, try not to imitate the person. Point is just to capture the meaning and do things the way that is natural to you.


Flirting Open




We also tend to point or gesture toward our object of desire. This means feet, hands, or the entire body will subconsciously be pointed toward him or her, opening up a line of physical—and hopefully verbal—communication.

If you have your eye on someone across the room, point your body in their direction — even if you don’t make eye contact, they may take the hint.



The Eyebrow Flash


When we first see someone we’re attracted to our eyebrows rise and fall, and they’ll do the same if they’re equally attracted. Watch closely and carefully, because it only lasts about a fifth of a second.

It’s an unconscious gesture replicated by every culture on the planet. Some experts claim it’s the most instantly recognized non-verbal sign of greeting we humans use.





If someone likes what they see, their pupil size increases, as does their blink rate.

Being the expert flirt you are, up the odds in your favor by increasing the blink rate of the person you’re talking to by blinking more yourself. If the person likes you, they’ll unconsciously try to match your blink rate to keep in sync with you, in turn making you both feel more attracted to one another.


Flirting Street


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